If you talk to people, people will talk to you.
Most of people interact with you out of curiosity not care. When someone gonna actually care, then it’s you who won’t.
Am gonna expose how staying away from developing close relationships with people, is beneficial for two major reasons. First; when you develop close relations with people, those who are around you at that moment will leave sooner or later, it happens, and you’ll develop a feeling of loneliness once they take off, it becomes then much harder, as you've actually experienced what it’s like to be surrounded. You feel the difference and you feel how good it used to be when people were around and lots of sharing was happening, conversations and attention… Whereas, when you’re all by your self from the very first place and don’t develop close relationships with people, you get used to it as it’s the only situation you know, and as it’s the one which you choose for your self. You develop a sentiment of coexistence with the feeling till you actually make benefit from it. At that moment, the coming or going of people don’t affect you that hard as they have no power on affecting your constant state of solitude.
The second reason is when it comes to what people are capable of offering you, its bases is the second part of the first reason. In the constant state of solitude and not loneliness, you choose that state, you believe it brings the best out of you, and you can operate much more effectively and efficiently under it. You learn how to count on your self, how to get your things done, to take your decisions, or empower your self, to progress, to have fun, to learn what you can do for pleasure. Once you learn all this things, you balance your life, you get experienced on how to offer your self happiness, how to work for it, how to pay for it, and on the other hand you also learn how to deal with your pain and sorrow. You learn how to make use of “bad” circumstances that might occur every now and then, either as a test, a punishment, or out of simple bad calculation of some actions’ consequences.
This whole strategy of learning how to deal with one self get messed up once others get on the line. As there is only two kinds of emotions from which everything derives, which are ‘Happiness’ and ‘Sadness’, then even people are unable of offering you anything but one of these too. Once you develop the ‘advanced state of solitude’ as I like to call it, and balance your happiness as well as your sorrows, introducing people into your personal zone will engender them giving you either joy or sorrow. In a balanced self situation you are absolutely in no need of the happiness others might offer, you’re perfectly capable of creating your own, so why put your self into the risk of the sorrow they might and probably will affect you with and make you feel. The potential risk of the harmfulness coming from relationships exceeds by far the potentiality of joy they might be able to bring, which is always to be temporary and surely not out of purity of purpose.
The reasons behind people’s interactions can never be trusted as it is never out of purity of purpose. Sometimes for reasons you, your self are not interested in. in most times, the purpose is a fulfillment of some kind of curiosity about you, to know who you are what you do, how you think, even the daily attention is driven by curiosity; people asking for your news, your daily activities, your plans never comes out of actually caring. Ask your self why would this person have any interest in knowing what did an hour ago? how my parents are doing? Or how the decision I took turned out to be?
In the worse case, the attention and surrounding might not be out of curiosity, but out of having absolutely nothing to do at that particular moment In which they are surrounding you or interacting with you, weather it’s a minute, two hours or 6 month. Little longer than that makes the case different.
Some of these people generally don’t come to realize that their interaction with you was only out of curiosity or time wasting till the moment they stop, then when they question the ‘persistence’ in seeking your news or the ‘quality time’ spent with you and how it doesn't matter anymore or just seem like it never happened, then they come to find the real motives that drove them to do so from the very first place.